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How to Love Without Losing Yourself
by Jennifer Gargotto
17 May 2012 at 10:04pm
Editor?s Note: This is a contribution by Jennifer Gargotto “We love because it is the only true adventure.” ~Nikki Giovanni  Last night I sat with an old friend who has recently broken ...
Are We Happier When We Have Purpose and Tiny Buddha Book Giveaway
by Lori Deschene
17 May 2012 at 10:02pm
by Lori Deschene IMPORTANT NOTE: This post contains two poll questions and a giveaway for an autographed copy of the Tiny Buddha book. If you?re reading this in your inbox, you ...
Finding Positive Ways to Express Difficult Emotions
by Dina Weldin
16 May 2012 at 3:43pm
Editor?s Note: This is a contribution by Dina Weldin ?Never apologize for showing feelings. When you do so, you apologize for the truth.? ~Benjamin Disraeli Each day, month, or year I want ...
Tiny Wisdom: This Moment Is Worth Savoring
by Lori Deschene
15 May 2012 at 10:58pm
by Lori Deschene ?The journey is the reward.? ~Chinese Proverb So much of our language about the things we enjoy in life revolves around getting ahead. We wonder where our relationships are going. ...
Releasing Judgment and Allowing Others to Have Their Process
by Tiela Garnett
15 May 2012 at 10:58pm
Editor’s Note: This is a contribution by Tiela Garnett  ?Judge nothing, you will be happy. Forgive everything, you will be happier. Love everything, you will be happiest.?  ~Sri Chinmoy We live in ...
Start the Climb: Take One Purposeful Step
by Kirsten Tulsian
15 May 2012 at 12:10am
Editor?s Note: This is a contribution by Kirsten Tulsian ?Don?t be afraid to go out on a limb. That?s where the fruit is.? ~H. Jackson Browne When I close my eyes and ponder ...
What Does It Mean to Have Enough and Tiny Buddha Book Giveaway
by Lori Deschene
15 May 2012 at 12:05am
by Lori Deschene This is the 7th post in a 10-part series. If you?ve been following this series since I launched it, much of this post will be redundant for you. ...
Tiny Wisdom: The Pain of Fighting Our Feelings
by Lori Deschene
13 May 2012 at 9:06pm
by Lori Deschene ?Whatever you fight, you strengthen, and what you resist, persists.? ~Eckhart Tolle Have you ever exacerbated difficult feelings by responding to them with resistance? Although I made peace with my ...
Creating an Inner Peace That Endures
by Marilyn Briant
13 May 2012 at 9:06pm
Editor?s Note: This is a contribution by Marilyn Briant ?Peace of mind is not the absence of conflict from life, but the ability to cope with it.? ~Unknown Like many people, I ...
Are Things Happening For You or Against You?
by Jeremy Britton
10 May 2012 at 9:02pm
Editor?s Note: This is a contribution by Jeremy Britton ?We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts, we make our world.? ~Buddha Your life ...

Bad Attitude

Today's Story on SELF DEVELOPMENT: Our mind works in a most peculiar way, and I don't think I need to remind you of that. We can smile at that very contemplation. But why do we allow it to do this? In WISDOM and PRACTICAL PHILOSOPHY we cannot prevent our mind operating in these peculiar ways, but we can limit it by acknowledging its grip and preventing the turmoil that follows. You can be assured that our pattern of thought is determined by our state of mind. If we are ever in the mood of revenge, then you can be sure some bizarre thoughts and actions will follow. So bizarre in fact that another time you'll be embarrassed to tell the tale. Do you ever find yourself justifying your actions? Consider why you justify? You do it in the hope that your actions will be understood. Why? You hope within your explanation that your actions that now appear wrong can have some sort of good intention. The best explanation of your actions however, is that they were made in a high emotional state. The justification appears almost as if you are in a court of law. If you find you have to explain your decisions, the very implication is that they were not done from a sound and logical frame of mind. What is this telling us? That we ARE most definitely controlled by our emotional state of mind. Our good intentions, our sensible head, our intellectual deliberations all mean nothing during the throws of a high emotion. We need our feet firmly on the ground and we need to interrupt by SEEING what is happening, before we can expect any degree of sense to arise from the so called madness that takes over. Forgive me as I would need to describe this emotional control to an extreme to drive the point home. Today's story is about a man who looses sight of reality and finds he is making decisions during a period of depression. While ever he stays in this deep and dark emotional state he'll not SEE. WISDOM is not always about helping yourself. If you practice the skill on other people as did the child in this story, you'll find an understanding that will help direct your own life. DADDY DEAREST I laid there in bed, thinking. It had been three years since my dad was lively and happy. A terrible bout with depression was taking a toll on him, and thus our family, over that time span. Lucky for me, I went to college out of town. I came home on breaks, as well as weekends when I could, but I had my own life now. And every time I went home, I would build up walls and keep myself at a distance from all the problems in the family, because I didn't think I could take it. This particular summer, I had arranged for a job near school, so I could escape the emotions of returning to an unhappy home. As I laid there in my childhood bed, the night before returning to my apartment for the summer, I broke down in tears. How could I be so selfish? How could I leave my mom and dad all alone to deal with this? How could I pretend that I didn't need to bear some of the responsibility of helping out? The years of denial came out in my tears that night, and I knew I couldn't continue on pretending. I was going to help as much as I could, even if that was only a small baby-step. That next day, I told my dad over breakfast, firmly, that we were going to clean his room, and I was going to help him. My mom had been begging him for a year to clean his room, because it was in such disarray. The doctors said taking proactive steps like that would help him feel better about himself, and maybe chip away at what was wrong with him. But he never wanted to listen. Stubbornly, he never actually took those steps. Much to my surprise, he actually smiled, and said "Ok, " to my suggestion. That day we went through years of old trash and documents. Newspapers from 10 years ago, computer games from elementary school. We worked together the entire day. All he needed was a firm kick in the butt to get him moving, and then he was able to take charge, looking happier than I had seen in months. By the time the day was over, his room was sparkling. Now we could all go back there and watch television together, just like childhood. though that would unfortunately have to wait until my next visit home. More importantly, now my dad had done something to help himself, and was a little happier. And I had helped him. It was time to leave though. I had a great job lined up, and had already given up a good night's rest on the first day of work by helping my dad all afternoon. I really hugged my dad as I said goodbye, for the first time in years. And as I hugged my mom goodbye, she whispered "Thank you so much" in my ear. This is still a story in progress, so I can't report that everything is all better now. But my fingers are crossed because now there is a lot more hope, and hope is very powerful. (Matt Blass, 2002, all rights reserved) QUOTE: "No lions are ever caught in mousetraps. To catch lions you must think in terms of lions, not in terms of mice. Your mind is always creating traps of one kind or another, and what you catch depends on the thinking you do. It is your thinking that attracts to you what you receive.' (Thomas Dreier, Author)

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Girls in Real Life: Moving from bad attitude to engagement in St. Paul - Twin Cities Planet


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Girls in Real Life: Moving from bad attitude to engagement in St. Paul
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(photos by Sheila Regan) By Sheila Regan, TC Daily Planet “I used to have a bad attitude,” said Janaysia Jaco, an eighth grader at Murray Jr. High, in Saint Paul. That was before she started the Girls in Real Life (GIRL) program, where she meets every ...

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BOOK REVIEW: 'Bad Religion' - Washington Times


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BOOK REVIEW: 'Bad Religion'
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By David Wilezol - Special to The Washington Times By Ross Douthat If you put a piece of duct tape over Ross Douthat's name on the dust jacket, the content of “Bad Religion,” subtitled “How We Became a Nation of Heretics,” would surprise you as a far ...

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Dalglish blasts 'bad attitude' of his Liverpool squad as they crumble in ... - Goal.com


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Dalglish blasts 'bad attitude' of his Liverpool squad as they crumble in ...
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By Callum Winterford Liverpool boss Kenny Dalglish has slammed the "bad attitude" from his players after falling to a 1-0 defeat at the hands of Fulham. Martin Skrtel scored the decisive own goal in just the fifth minute of the game, consigning the ...
Sort out bad attitude or you can forget winning FA Cup! Dalglish slams Kop flopsDaily Mail
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Kenny Dalglish warns Liverpool players to change 'bad attitude' or forget ... - Telegraph.co.uk


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Kenny Dalglish warns Liverpool players to change 'bad attitude' or forget ...
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"Their attitude was not right and if you get a bad attitude you are going to get a bad performance and that is what we got," he said. "I think that is an accurate appraisal. "I am culpable as well as I changed a lot of players to try to give everyone ...
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Jim Hancock: Commercial Real Estate and that French Attitude - D Magazine


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Jim Hancock: Commercial Real Estate and that French Attitude
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Girl loves bad boy - Hindu Business Line


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Girl loves bad boy
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Most girls like bad boys. Some girls like 'em bad, wild and violent. Ishaqzaade's Zoya Qureshi clearly wants all of that plus treacherous as well. So, when Parma Chauhan, the object of her hatred-turned-love, pushes the boundaries of bad behaviour, ...

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I think being bad is cool only on screen: Sanjay Dutt - Times of India


I think being bad is cool only on screen: Sanjay Dutt
Times of India
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Father Shames Daughter By Making Her Hold “Bad Attitude” Sign - NBC Los Angeles


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Father Shames Daughter By Making Her Hold “Bad Attitude” Sign
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By DANIEL MACHT A father reportedly forced his daughter to hold up a sign advertising her "bad attitude." A huge black bear, affectionately called "Meatball" by locals, was tranquilized after stroll through a Los Angeles area suburb.
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Lance Stephenson made a choking gesture at LeBron James (VIDEO) - Yahoo! Sports (blog)


Lance Stephenson made a choking gesture at LeBron James (VIDEO)
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By Eric Freeman By Eric Freeman | Ball Don't Lie – 7 hours ago The Miami Heat were really, really bad in their Game 3 against the Indiana Pacers on Thursday night, losing 94-75 and looking overmatched for most of the 48 minutes.

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NBA Draft 2012: Why the Phoenix Suns Should Select Austin Rivers - Bleacher Report


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NBA Draft 2012: Why the Phoenix Suns Should Select Austin Rivers
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Some common knocks on Austin Rivers are his poor shot selection and bad attitude. Given that Steve Nash stays (which is possible), Rivers will fix his problems early on and possibly become a star in the NBA. The perception that he has poor shot ...

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will i go to hell for this?
okay so i am 18year old muslim girl, i am religious(pray,fast,donate to charity etc) but i do not cover up, but i dress up very modestly honestly nothing revealing or tight. anyways to the question. well, i dont get along withmy parents at all, and my dad hates me not because of my behaviour religiously (like i am not a good muslim, because hes okay withe way i am) but just general stuff like he thinks i am rude and have a bad attitude but thats not true because all my life i have been praised for postive,caring and kind attitude to people, i mean i like support poor families wiht my own money. we havent been spoken to eachother for like 5 months because of an incident that happened and it was entirely my fault, my aunts, and i get the blame for it and when it happened i honeatly didnt think it was wrong or bad, but he was furious he wanted to kill me, but my grandma calmed him down, and i aplogised like million times and he still rufused to talk to me, i mean am i to blame here? and as you know in the past months we have had 2 eids on both of them he did not wish me a happy eid or try talking to me again, when mum says something about he saus yeah whatever that dog etc blablabla, and its puts me really down, i already hate myself for the way i am, and he is making it worse, and everyone in my family blames my dad for my behaviour because he spoiled me rooten as a kid i mena he used to get my brothers to clean my shoe for me when they were teeneagers? i mean come on hw would fell if you had to do that for your 5 yr old sis, and i remember there was time when i was way younger i wanted to wear a scarf but he didnt let me. i mena sometimes i would aswer back to my mum rudely and he would excuse it and have a go at her for not being nice to me when i was to blame, i mean come on he made me this way if this the way he dealt with my stinky attitude back then. and now to my mum, well i have never gotten along wiht her because my dad always took my side and blamed her for eveything, so the way i saw was that, she hated me thats why she didnt treat me as nicely as my dad, i answer her too her very rudely, i mean she curses me all the time, and its realllt affecting me, i try so hard not to do this to her but i cant help it anymore im so used to getting my way, and blaming and hating her. she has said so many times she wishes she never had me blabla, i mean i feel so depressed when i have to listen to that, she doesnt like me and we never get along and i am 18 now, everyone that knows us knows me and her dont have a relationship, like there were so many times where i needed advice and help but i couldnt talk to her, and i dont have any sisters either. am i to blame for this because i know in islam being respectfull to your parants is so important, i know i am blame for my mum, but dad? no right he is to blame for being such a bad father, and not being a good role model, he is a business man he sees money as everything hence why he isnt so religious, where some of his brothers are because their dad was a very respectful imam when he was alive. he treats my mum like shit aswell, he is so patronising and stuff its just insane and he is a bully too he just wnats his way!!! please help! @ Gordon thats not the problem, i mean they have never told me how to dress other be modest and cover up, thats not the problem, its just the way he treats me and blames me for evrything , when he is to blame. meant to say NOT religiously and i wasn't to blame for the incident, TYPO sorry meant to say NOT religiously and i wasn't to blame for the incident, TYPO sorry meant to say NOT religiously and i wasn't to blame for the incident, TYPO sorry @ tomkinght thank you, i try to change but just cant. @abdul i have made the effort when it hap pend i literally begged for his forgiveness, but he didn't and after that i tried again he still refused to answer me lol meant to thank NELSON, not tomkingt you douche, my fusstration at this point has confused me @Genuis, i am student so i am not alwyas at home, which woudlve made it worse if i was but is till have to deal with a father that is douche bag and hates me, so manytimes i have over heard him calling me nasty names, i dont even wanna say them it hurst so much, reflecting what he used to call my angel, my life blabla before... and i have anger issue i really do in school they put me anger management course and clearly it didnt help so i egta ngry very quickly and say stupid stuff and upset my mum someitmes i dont mind because i think shes to blame but at times i hate myself or it @ Cullis, thanks, and he hasnt got much of trust issue here, although yes he fears for me becoming a Wh**E like you know, but he knows i aint i respect myself and religion so much that i woudlnt do anything to degrade myself, and so many times i have over heard talking to my aunt-his sister saying he trust me considering i have never done anything to prove otherwise, but honestly who knows, i shouldnt care anymore, i ve tried so much. @ Leo Nelson, honestly thanks :) it helps alot, and you're avice i appreciate :) and all the others again thanks for your contribution, i feel better now knowing that some agree its not my fault,

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How to make new friends?
I recently decided to leave a big group of friends. Turns out many of them backstabbed me & also they all did drugs & sh*t - Not my idea of fun tbh. And with GCSE's coming up I cant afford to have a bad attitude :'/ I have one very close friend, she has been there for me through everything & I love her to pieces. But she doesnt come out very often because she is quite family orientated & spends alot of time with her boyfriend, which isnt a problem for me at all. But I'd really like to make some new friends... Just meet some new people that arent accosiated with that old huge group (of about 40 - no joke) How do I do it? :( I have no confidence anymore since leaving that group.. But it was or the best. So.. Yeah, how do I? & how can I get over these old "friends"? Thankyou so much Love Yee xx

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Why is it that people from the U.S have such a terrible attitude?
i ask questions and the answers i get are simply rude. A person even called me names and she is a 'Top Contributor' I am from Trinidad and Tobago, i Quoted a piece of the constitution of my country yet people still fail to understand, even though i stated where i'm from twice in my question I got directed to the bottom of the page if i did not want a U.S based answer but the person did not even bother to check to see if my country is even listed there! sigh... i really do not appreciate such behavior from people. Why is it that they have such bad attitudes? and i actually like people from the U.S some are really nice but i mean; come on. Some are just horrible. Dont they take other's feelings into consideration? .. sigh

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Should Liverpool go after Tevez?
good player, bad attitude? so big risk

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How to fix my attitude!!?
I have a bad attitude n it needs to be fixed. Im not to bad with my mouth but its like rollin my eyes n stuff thats wut me mom said

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