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Today's Story on SELF DEVELOPMENT: We are all sometimes afraid to admit that our self development is totally down to us as an individual. Any guidance we get is ultimately asking us the question, 'Do we want to take action?' If we take no action, there is no self development! There is a belief that if we are given something free, we don't value it. But if we pay, it has value. I for example was given two concert tickets before Christmas and found the effort to go to the concert was enormous. Yet had I chose to buy the tickets I would have been eager to attend. Self development is no different! If you go to the gym for a year with an aim to shape your body, your tolerance increases. If you are presented with a box of chocolates, you become happy to except one, rather than binge on eight or nine. The value increases when you pay, not necessarily in money but effort too! The story today and subsequent quote is not about payment, but about being bound. If you get everything for free, it is easy not to improve; you haven't spent anything so it doesn't matter! You don't need to spend big, spending on a book once a month would do fine... THE TUNNEL Zenkai, the son of a samurai, journeyed to Edo and there became a retainer of a high official. This high official treated his wife like a slave and she looked frightened at each encounter with her husband. Zenkai fell in love with the official's wife and was discovered. Then in self-defence, he slew the official. This event caused Zenkai to run away with the wife. Both of them later became thieves. But the woman was so greedy that Zenkai grew disgusted. Finally, leaving her, he journeyed far away to the province of Buzen, where he became a wandering mendicant. To atone for his past, Zenkai resolved to accomplish some good deed in his lifetime. Knowing of a dangerous road over the cliff that had caused the death and injury of many persons, he resolved to cut a tunnel through the mountains there. Begging food in the daytime, Zenkai worked at night digging his tunnel. When thirty years had gone by, the tunnel was 2, 280 feet long, 20 feet high and 30 feet wide. Two years before the work was completed, the son of the official he had slain, who was a skilful swordsman, found Zenkai out and came to kill him in revenge. "I will give you my life willingly, " said Zenkai. "Only let me finish this work. On the day it is completed, then you may kill me." So the son awaited the day. Several months passed and Zenkai kept on digging. The son grew tired of doing nothing and began to help with the digging. After he had helped for more than a year, he came to admire Zenkai's strong will and character. At last the tunnel was completed and the people could use it and travel in safety. "Now cut off my head, " said Zenkai. "My work is done." "How can I cut off my own teacher's head?" asked the younger man with tears in his eyes. (A Zen Story) QUOTE: "People are anxious to improve their circumstances, but are unwilling to improve themselves; they therefore remain bound." (James Allen).
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In your experience: What is an effective stress reliever?
I am about to endure a week of stress due to the presence of a very unwelcome house guest. She is a family member and causes no end of trouble.
Any tips - greatly appreciated!
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Basic Geotechnics.............Effective stress?
Here is just a basic question
the ground next to a river consists of clay and the water table is 1m below the ground level. This means that some of the clay is fully saturated and some is not.
However the river then floods so the ground is submerged below 1m of water. So the water table is obviously above the ground level now
What happens to the
-Total vertical stress
- Pore water pressure
-Effective vertical stress
This is immediate effects not long term
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can anyone please tell me what is wrong with fighting?
some people like to drink, some people like to play sports, some people like to read, others to do gardening.
some people find a really good fight is a very effective stress reliever and after all, fight or flight is programmed into our bodies as a survival instinct - which is rarely ignited but still there.
so what is wrong with a good fight among willing participants?
preferably alcohol fuelled and after some really good shouting
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Really effective stress management techniques?
I very much doubt that I would get much response from here, but it's worth a shot.
I have recently been taking an exam that is 4 hours long and I really have problems with stress. The stress has made me lost 20-30% of the marks that I would have otherwise got (I know because I have done quite a few practice tests where I have scored high 80s and 90s).
The stress hasn't really been a problem before since it was pretty much under control and had little influence over my marks. This recent exam had been a real test to me and I experienced all sorts of symptoms that I would have otherwise not experienced at all - this coming from a postgraduate who has spent about 20 years in education and undertaken many exams before.
The following are the symptoms I managed to recognise during the course of the day:
Before:
I was trying to look through some of the material to get my brain up to pace for the exam. However, I have found that not only I had failed to concentrate on the way there (I keep drifting off) but I keep getting mind blocks when I do try. In other words, I can't get my mind to look at the stuff.
I also feel like I was going to vomit after having breakfast; I suppose it was the butterflies in the stomach, but I never had the feeling before so I wouldn't know.
During the exam:
I started the exam calmly and clearly, remembering everything that I had learnt as well noting the pitfalls and weaknesses that I have. However, it then slowly and progressively got worse and I got a whole lot more tense as time went on.
Throughout the exam, I had to leave for 5 toilet breaks (not that I need them) and 2 occassions where I had to eat chocolate and drank water because I needed to calm down.
After:
After the test, I have got my results and I experienced the whole rush of symptoms that you would associate with stress:
I started sweating
my throat got really dry really quickly
I started to do irrational things
I could barely string a sentence together to make sense
I started calling people to find ways of solving my problems, even though I know there was no rush
I had a hard time breathing
The only thing I could think about was the test
I got tense and lost my cool
I tried to rectify things by requesting a retake
I started to get very edgy even for the smallest of things
I almost got on the wrong train home
I started to notice things around me less and became less alert
I felt hot for no apparent reason
I could barely think clearly and get my act together - I started to miss things that are so obvious
All of this continued for 3-4 hours after the test. In a way, it's like a father worrying about the birth of his child (not as it is anything as nearly as nerve racking of course)
I have tried the following methods before, after and during the test, but to no avail:
shifting the focus from your mind to the paper
positive mental reinforcement - apparently I am immune to self talk
lowering the emphasis on the end result and implications of the exam
deep breathing and taking moments to recollect yourself
pretended the test was like any other practice test
tried to think logically and remember all the pratices and training that I had
Take notes and disect the thing apart
Monitor my time
Try to recognise my feelings, observe that I have the choice of not feeling them and disconnect those feelings
Recognise excessive stress under such circumstances will not help you in the exam
Shifting my mind to the most effective trance possible (there is this trance that everybody goes into when they are on a role and it brings out the best in them. Unfortunately my stress inhibited me from getting to this, instead it made me delay time).
Do note, when I do use self talk, my brain says 'I will get top marks by the end of the exam', by mind on the other hand says, 'who do you think you're kidding with that attitude? Get cracking or you won't get what you need'
My mind also has a habit of ignoring any self realisations or advice I give myself. e.g. I realise and know that talking to people about retakes or getting worked up about it doesn't help the situation. However, my mind ignores that and keep letting my emotions flooding in and lead me to doing irrational things. As you can see, the stress is very likely to originate from an unconscious source.
I understand that there is something called emotional intelligence and I have read about it. I also have tried the techniques that they recommended - a few of which are mentioned above.
I also know that you do need a certain level of stress in order to keep yourself motivated, otherwise not only will you get too cocky but you will do yourself disfavours. However, too much stress can cost you more like I have explained in this post.
So my question is for all stress management experts, psychiatrists, psychologists specialising on stress management or someone with brilliant skills in managing their own stress is what I can do to make
...the stress a less of a problem and remain calm most of the time?
Do note, I am normally a very calm and chilled out person. e.g. in a few narrowly escaped car accidents, I was still able to remain calm and do the right thing - this wasn't the case.
I would also make note that it is likely the stress is caused unconsciously which is a place I have little or no control over.
I understand that NLP, meditation and self hypnosis is recommended, but I am very much sceptical of what they say about them.
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Minimum horizontal effective stress at this point?
At a point in cohesionless soil the vertical total stress is 100 kPa and the pore pressure is 40 kPa.
The soil has an angle of friction of 30 degrees.
That is all the detail I have, how do I work out the horizontal effective stress?
Usually I would use k.(y.z + q - u) however I don't have the values to satisfy this.
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