Mind Over Mood
Today's Story on THE LOVE OF WISDOM: We are soon to pass judgement, it seems we are taught this and subsequently our reactions feature this trait. We make an early judgement invariably to satisfy a selfish desire. We selfishly want to be okay. If we see a tramp for example, we do not want that tramp to dwell long in our thoughts, so we justify that depravity is self inflicted and they ought to pull themselves out of it. That justification allows us to walk away and drop any thoughts about the hurt, anguish and lack of food this tramp is suffering from. We can still walk by following a blessing or donation and forget the tramp. To part with money may infringe on our beliefs, to part with a blessing may infringe on our time. It would seem our emotion at that specific time dictates our reaction to the tramp. Today's story is a beautiful tale of how one young student sought advice on how to overcome a poor working relationship, because an early judgement could have caused her career to falter at the first hurdle. A LESSON FOR A LIFETIME When I arrived at 6 a.m. in the large hospital kitchen, Rose was already checking name tags on the trays against the patient roster. Stainless steel shelves held rows of breakfast trays which we would soon be serving. "Hi, I'm Janet." I tried to sound cheerful, although I already knew Rose's reputation for being impossible to work with. "I'm scheduled to work with you this week." Rose, a middle-aged woman with greying hair, stopped what she was doing and peered over her reading glasses. I could tell from her expression she wasn't pleased to see a student worker. "What do you want me to do? Start the coffee?" Rose sullenly nodded and went back to checking name tags. I filled the 40-cup pot with cold water and began making the coffee when Rose gruffly snapped, "That's not the way to make coffee." She stepped in and took over. "I was just doing it the way our supervisor showed us to do it, " I said in astonishment. "The patients like the coffee better the way I do it, " she replied curtly. Nothing I did pleased her. All morning her eagle eyes missed nothing and her sharp words stung. She literally trailed me around the kitchen. Later, after breakfast had been served and the dishes had been washed, I set up my share of trays for the next meal. Then I busied myself cleaning the sink. Certainly Rose couldn't criticize the way I did that. When I turned around, there stood Rose, rearranging all of the trays I had just set up! Totally exhausted, I trudged the six blocks home from the University of Minnesota Hospital late that June afternoon. As a third year university student working my way through school, I had never before encountered anyone like Rose. Fighting back tears, I wrestled with my dilemma alone in my room. "Lord, what do you want me to do? I can't take much more of Rose." I turned the possibilities over in my mind. Should I see if my supervisor would switch me to work with someone else? Scheduling was fairly flexible. On the other hand, I didn't want to be a quitter. I knew my older co-workers were watching to see if my actions matched my words. The answer to my prayer caught me completely by surprise -- I needed to love Rose. Love her? No way! Tolerate, yes, but loving her was impossible. "Lord, I can't love Rose. You'll have to do it through me." Working with Rose the next morning, I ignored the barbs thrown in my direction and did things Rose's way as much as possible to avoid friction. As I worked, I silently began to surround Rose with a warm blanket of prayers. "Lord, help me love Rose. Lord, bless Rose." Over the next few days an amazing thing began to happen. As I prayed for this irritating woman, my focus shifted from what she was doing to me, and I started seeing Rose as the hurting person she was. The icy tension began to melt away. Throughout the rest of the summer, we had numerous opportunities to work together. Each time she seemed genuinely happy to see me. As I worked with this lonely woman, I listened to her--something no one else had done. I learned that she was burdened by elderly parents who needed her care, her own health problems, and an alcoholic husband she was thinking of leaving. The days slipped by quickly as I finished the last several weeks of my summer job. Leaves were starting to turn yellow and red, and there was a cool, crispness in the air. I soon would be returning as a full-time university student. One day, while I was working alone in one of the hospital kitchens, Rose entered the room. Instead of her blue uniform, she was wearing street clothes. I looked at her in surprise. "Aren't you working today?" "I got me another job and won't be working here no more, " she said as she walked over and gave me a quick hug. "I just came to say good-bye." Then she turned abruptly and walked out the door. Although I never saw Rose again, I still remember her vividly. That summer I learned a lesson I've never forgotten. The world is full of people like Rose--irritating, demanding, unlovable--yet hurting inside. I've found that love is the best way to turn an enemy into a friend. 2002 Janet Seever Janet Seever, the mother of two adult children, lives with her husband in Calgary, Alberta, Canada, where she is a writer for Word Alive magazine. Her articles have previously appeared in a variety publications and Web sites. A short story of hers was published last year in The Essence Collection: Celebrating the Season. "A Lesson for a Lifetime" took place in 1966. QUOTE: "A hero is no braver than an ordinary man, but he is braver 5 minutes longer.' (Ralph Waldo Emerson)
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Parton song deemed 'historically significant' - The Murfreesboro Post
25 May 2012 at 7:40am Parton has called "Coat of Many Colors" the favorite of her compositions because of the attitude and philosophy it reflects ... and creativity and to further human understanding and wisdom by providing access to knowledge through its magnificent ...Read more...
Local biochemist cooks up a tastier new profession - Chestnut Hill Local
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World Wisdom Launches Children's/YA Imprint - Publishers Weekly
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CPLC to Honor Two Remarkable Hispanic Families for their Contributions to Sou...
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Xinhua Insight: Global harmony-themed conference mulls Confucian wisdom - Xin...
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Mulla Sadra: Accomplished philosopher of the mystics - Tehran Times
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Focus on the liberal arts at Campion - Newcastle Herald
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College of Wooster graduates ready for the road ahead - Daily Record
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Is anyone else working their way through the book Mind Over Mood?
I am slwoly working through the above book and wondered is anyone else is - would like to hear how youre getting on
authur Dennis Greenburger
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Cognitive Behavioural Therapy 'Mind Over Mood' anyhone else worked their way through it? my g.p. recommended
it to me when I was going through the menopause to help with anxiety. - would like to hear from anyone who found it helpful - i thought it was brilliant and i didnt even get to the end of the book!
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I'm contemplating on ending my life because of anxiety, Please, please help me?
I'm a 19 year old female and I've been suffering with anxiety for several months.
I saw a doctor about a month ago and 2 weeks later I saw a counsellor.
She told me that I seem perfectly normal and that the anxiety WILL go away soon. The anxiety was caused from drug abuse on TWOweekends in my whole life. I mixed too type of drugs, One being a horse tranquilliser and I also drank alcohol. I got pretty messed up that night. About 2 weeks ago I had a flashback of something bad that happened that night. This made me want to see the counsellor.
My counsellor also told me to get a book called 'Mind Over Mood' to control my negative thinking. I'm yet to get the book, but I have begun to understand that this is just a phase, and that It will go away soon.
However, the past week It's just gotten worse.
My awesome relationship with my boyfriend is going down the drain. I'm afraid that we're near to a break up and he's the only thing I have going for me in my life right now. I just want to end my life because I can't handle this any more.
Everyday SOMETHING triggers these bad thoughts. For example, today I sunk into this mood because of a film I was watching with my boyfriend this morning. There were lots of 'half-naked' women in it and I got in an angry mood with him after the film finished because he was kissing me and touching me. I thought he got turned on by the film, and I didn't want him to touch me.
My boyfriend told me that I'm stupid for thinking he liked the girls in the film, and that he knew why I was in a bad mood. Even during the film he knew I would think he liked these girls, so he turned away when one of them came up on the screen. He twitched at one point in the film, when a woman's butt was on tv, obviously I assumed it was because he got turned on. But he swore on his life that it was because he was nervous that I'd think he liked them. He told me I'm beautiful about a hundred times whilst I was crying and then he said "Why would I like anybody else when I've got you?".
I believe him, but these absurd thoughts are driving me crazy.
I feel like I have no control of my mind. My boyfriend started shouting at me saying that it's ME controlling my mind, not somebody else. He says I have to stop or else we're going to break up.
He told me that in his last relationship (which lasted over a year), he was just like me. And the only way he recovered and realised he was being stupid was by leaving his girlfriend. But he says he doesn't want me to leave him and I don't want to leave him either.
I was hurt a lot in the past by guys, I was cheated on, I was used and abused by boys. I don't trust practically anyone. I barely trust my boyfriend even though I'm probably the most luckiest girl in the World. I find it hard to believe that he doesn't fancy other girls out there except me, because I'm bisexual and I understand there are beautiful women out there, even if I don't want to admit it.
I know I'm a very beautiful girl, that's something I do believe, but I still don't think I'm good enough for him. He's perfect in every way and he himself is beautiful.
I wasn't like this last year. I had everything going for me. I was a drama student of 5 years at college, I had high hopes of being successful, I had men and women begging to be with me, I had hundreds of friends. And now.. I just have my boyfriend and my family. I practically live with him and it's obvious I have isolated myself from the rest of the World. He suffers with depersonalization and cannot really leave the house. He tries to go out for me, and we went out to the beach the other day. It was amazing.
I love life. Well, I used to. I was ALWAYS smiling. Now my boyfriend tells me I never smile. I'm NOT the Tiffany I used to be, and I want her back so much. My confidence has gone, my passion for life has gone, everything.
I don't want to end my life but I feel like it's the only way I can be happy and get rid of these bad thoughts.
I'm sorry for this question being very long, I just needed to talk to someone.
I'm at my boyfriends house right now and he's playing an online game. I'm actually upset because he's talking to lots of people on this game and I'm somewhat annoyed :/ I shouldn't be. I'm so f**king stupid! I'm so angry with myself for being like this. I'm damaging myself and my relationship.
I'll probably feel better later and me and my boyfriend will be all romantic and cute together, but I'm scared that one day soon I'm just going to end my life. I've already punched myself in the head today. The past week I have started to hit myself :/
This situation is getting so much worse.
Please help me.
Thanks very much for your answers. I am going to start eating healthier and looking after my body more. I do drink a lot of caffeine like pepsi and coffee/tea. Thanks again for your answers. I feel better already. Writing down how I feel really helps and I find Yahoo Answers a big help in that department. Thank you!
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What anxiety and depression medication has few side effects and is CBT helpful?
I went to the doctor in the first time in about seven years because I was fed up of the cycle of behaviour I was in. I had long suspected it was depression and I had tried to deal with it myself by changing some external factors in my life but I had run out of ideas a month or so ago so even though it was extremely difficult i went to see a doctor and I was prescribed medication and referred for CBT. The medication I was given was lustral and I was to take 50mg daily. The first night I took lustral I felt sick, couldn't sleep, was overly aware of my what felt like irregular heartbeat and then I had a panic attack and kind of collapsed. I only took the tablet once because I found the experience quite scary. After a few days my body felt back to how it was before taking the drug and since then I have not been back to the doctor or for CBT because I have felt very discouraged. It was a big thing going to the doctor and for them to prescribe me a drug that did that to me does not make me feel very confident in the process. I am very happy I no longer live alone because I am not sure what would've happened had I not had support that night. I do realise that doctors are kind of guessing with this medication but I was told my symptoms might get worse before they get better but stick with it and that was all. I was meant to return two weeks later but it has been six now and I my mind is still functioning in a negative way. I have bought a book about CBT with exercises in, it is called mind over mood and I am going to start using it soon but I was wondering if anyone had experience of CBT. The idea of telling someone I don't know about how I feel seems horrifying and the fact that I am a twenty six year old male how is prone to crying when talking about the things I feel I really do not feel comfortable. I know I have to help myself a little to get better but just looking for any advice or other people's experience. Thanks.
Also may I say I think I just reacted badly to the drugs and do not think it is common and I don't mean to discourage anyone who has been prescribed lustral from taking them. Just didn't seem to help me.
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