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Quiet Your Mind and Just Play (in 20 Ways)
by Angela Marchesani
24 May 2012 at 11:02pm
Editor?s Note: This is a contribution by Angela Marchesani ?If it?s not fun, you?re not doing it right.? ~Bob Basso I spend a lot of time contemplating and philosophizing about life. According ...
How Can We Identify What We Want and Tiny Buddha Book Giveaway
by Lori Deschene
24 May 2012 at 11:01pm
by Lori Deschene IMPORTANT NOTE: This post contains two poll questions and a giveaway for an autographed copy of the Tiny Buddha book. If you?re reading this in your inbox, you ...
The Key to Beauty and Acceptance Is You
by Jaclyn Witt
23 May 2012 at 8:48pm
Editor?s Note: This is a contribution by Jaclyn Witt ?To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don?t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.? ~Thich Nhat ...
When We Think Other People Are Better Than Us
by Justb
23 May 2012 at 8:48pm
Editor?s Note: This is a contribution by Justb ?No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.? ~Eleanor Roosevelt. I have a very bad habit. It pokes me when I stop to ...
Tiny Wisdom: The Heart in Our Homes
by Lori Deschene
22 May 2012 at 10:17pm
by Lori Deschene Before I found this Flickr image, I had never read this Irish blessing before. What a beautiful idea! I remember in college, I spent a semester abroad in the ...
What We Really Need to Be Happy
by Sasha Peakall
22 May 2012 at 10:16pm
Editor?s Note: This is a contribution by Sasha Peakall ?The real measure of your wealth is how much you?d be worth if you lost all your money.? ~Unknown Standing, getting crushed on ...
Be a Master of Where You Are Now
by Alanna Levenson
21 May 2012 at 11:12pm
Editor?s Note: This is a contribution by Alanna Levenson ?Have respect for yourself, and patience and compassion.  With these, you can handle anything.? ~Jack Kornfield I hadn?t taken a yoga class in ...
Why Do We Ignore Our Instincts and Tiny Buddha Book Giveaway
by Lori Deschene
21 May 2012 at 11:11pm
by Lori Deschene This is the 9th post in a 10-part series. (It’s the last week!) If you?ve been following this series since I launched it, much of this post will ...
How to Feel More Loved: 9 Tips for Deep Connection
by Lori Deschene
20 May 2012 at 10:01pm
by Lori Deschene ?It is astonishing how little one feels alone when one loves.? ~John Bulwer If there?s one thing we all want, it?s to feel loved. We want to feel deeply connected ...
How to Love Without Losing Yourself
by Jennifer Gargotto
17 May 2012 at 10:04pm
Editor?s Note: This is a contribution by Jennifer Gargotto “We love because it is the only true adventure.” ~Nikki Giovanni  Last night I sat with an old friend who has recently broken ...

Negative Thinking

Today's Story on ADAPTING TO CHANGE: Do we really know where our values reside and whether they are values and not a hidden selfishness? As I read today's story I was in and out of support for the lady and her tale of emotional turmoil. But why would I swap and be with her one moment then opposing her another? These are the challenges we face every day. It is a case of structuring a formula that sees the dilemma and resolves it. Wisdom and Philosophy being the structure of course. Rather than work out an explanation and determine the ultimate answer, with the intensity and quality that Wisdom can give you; you act from an inner sense and work out the explanation afterwards. The story is entitled 'Change' but ultimately the lady isn't going to change, so it could have easily been called 'Not Changing'. I sense the lady is justifying her decision to go with her thoughts about life, but only she will know if it's the right decision. The story has an immense value as it appears to explain how we approach every daily dilemma. We see it, we act and then if it doesn't follow some major vein of truth we justify it. We do this to satisfy our subconscious mind. Once an action has happened we cannot take it back. We are better for accepting there may have been an error and correct it should the next need arise. This story may not be the full story, and we may find ourselves adding to fill in the gaps, but there is a sense that the bitterness from the emotion involved caused her to pass her view in this manner. Upon reflection, some months later, her view maybe different. The observation however, is that a heightened emotional state of mind confuses our decision making tools. CHANGE I walked into the house and dropped my bag on the floor with a barely concealed sigh of relief. My back was a mass of aching misery, and it was a joy to be home. To the computer to check email, and then a nap. As soon as the monitor lights, there is a message. "I hope you kill yourself." I sighed. At one point in my life, this would have bothered me. Isn't it strange when you get used to such mundane things. But at some level, the journal entries, the harassing phone calls, the instant messages, the bad poetry... they all blended together. Into one sort of amalgamous ball of hatred. It wasn't a comfortable honour to be named someone's "unwilling muse" like that. But what else could I do? Talking to her held gave no leeway. She was so egotistic that any attempts at discussion were simply rebuffed because I couldn't possibly be right because... well... I was me. Not that I considered myself right, granted. In this situation, there's not a right. But I'm not ashamed of the choices I made. I tried to stand by someone I cared about. Granted again, it got me emotionally kicked in the face a few dozen times, drove me into full blown manic depression, and left me disconsolate and disbelieving of love... but sometimes you just had to make choices. Even now, she taunts me. Taunts me that because I've managed to lose everything in a matter of months (including her precious boyfriend, who she won't allow to talk to me) that I was depressed, weak, and filthy. Because the two of us had been involved, I was a "slut". My friend Rachel pointed out once that if her criteria for judging sluts was the people that'd slept with her boyfriend, there must not be any mirrors around. And so, I sort of bumble along. She's hidden her journal, though I won't hide mine. Occasionally a poem pops up, full of loathing and bitterness for the life I continue to ruin by just being in it. And she always claims how I've ruined his life too. Funny, he used to tell me the opposite. Which is why I stayed. But, her little master plan has worked now. Cut off from all the people who loved him and who he loved in return, he's got no choice but to fall back on her now. That's how they imprint baby animals, you know. And so, I sit here. Thinking about the times we had, looking at the gifts he gave me, and wondering if he's ok. Anyone that'd encourage another human being to kill themselves, taunt them for not having the courage to do it, and then define even thinking of it as a cowardly act scares me on a very deep soul level. But yeah, that's my story. There was a boy, and I loved him once. And he moved and got a new girlfriend without telling me. Or her, apparently, that there'd been a me. She found out, she flipped out, and now she hates me because I've ruined her life. Sounds like something from a soap opera, don't it. Some day, I'm going to write a book. And it's going to make lots of money, because, let's face it, people eat stuff like that up. Yet, even so, I resent being called a slut because I loved. I turn off the monitor and head into the bathroom. Tom is coming over in an hour or so, and I'd like to be ready on time for once. Maybe I'm his slut too. Maybe I fall in love too easy. At any rate, I refuse to change. (Jennifer A. Binkley) QUOTE: 'After all it is those who have a deep and real inner life who are best able to deal with the irritating details of outer life.' (Evelyn Underhill)

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Why do we always seek to turn negative thinking into positive thinking ? (Answers: 20) (Comments: 0)


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Do you believe that being in the company of negative thinking people can have an adverse affect on you? (Answers: 22) (Comments: 0)
Or do you think it doesnt matter? If you do think it can have an adverse affect on you, would it not be wise to avoid these ones, limit your time with them or even eject them totally from your life? What do you think?

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how do i break the habit of negative thinking? (Answers: 5) (Comments: 0)
I worry about what the future hold and i get depressed.. Then I feel upset with myself................

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What are some cognitive behaviour therapy exercises I can use to change negative thinking? (Answers: 6) (Comments: 0)


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when did you last adjust your negative thinking about someone into understanding for THEIR postiion better? (Answers: 2) (Comments: 0)
and is this the best way for most to change their feelings towards everyone in general? please explain and describe and give an example how easy is this and how is it done? btw, which area of the world are you?

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