Positive Motivation

How can I maintain positive motivation to workout regularly?


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Since this is common,what is the correct, legal, acceptable procedure for dealing with a violent adopted child?
" "The Russian orphanage officials completely lied to her because they wanted to get rid of him," Nancy Hansen said. She said the boy was very skinny when they picked him up, and he told them he had been beaten with a broom handle at the orphanage. Joseph LaBarbera, a clinical psychologist at Vanderbilt University Medical Center in Nashville, said adoptive parents are many times not aware of the psychological state of children put up for adoption. "Parents enter into it (foreign adoption) with positive motivations but, in a sense, they are a little bit blindsided by their desire to adopt," said LaBarbera, who specializes in the psychological evaluation of children and has worked with a number of children adopted from Russia and other foreign countries. "They're not prepared to appreciate, psychologically, the kinds of conditions these kids have been exposed to and the effect it has had on them." " http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/eu_russia_adopted_boy I'm not agreeing with what this woman did. I think it was handled badly. I just want to know what she should have done once she realised she could not handle this child. What were her options(realistically)? Also, since it is a common problem for orphanages to be overloaded with unclaimed children, and underfunded to care for them, what could they have done differently to ensure that the child was adopted without misrepresentation or chancing child endangerment? What about the biological mother of the child, who is reportedly still alive, but not required to care for her son? Could this problem have been avoided by providing better assistance to the mother? What are your thoughts? Trucker: I'm sorry, but I can not see how threatening to burn the house down, and kill the mother and her family in their sleep, can be described as simply "awkward". He is the victim here, but there is definitely more to his mental state than just "awkward".

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Are these possible factors in the ethical decline in mental health services?
- accepting image and status as positive motivations in their own right - accepting that one must believe, experience and do what someone else says. I've witnessed these resulting in adverse behaviours and outcomes at various times in my life. And I've also studied the psychology research, which strongly indicates that the factors in the first line result in a higher sense of subjective well-being for those who feel that they have them, but lower measures of subjective well-being overall (based on international studies). As regards the second line, there is the Milgram Experiment that clearly demonstrates the dangers involved of just doing what someone else says (and was set up to explore how events in Nazi Germany had happened when they seemed totally unethical, and those events led to the Universal Declaration of Human Rights, which in practice seems to be totally ignored for the purposes of the UK mental health act and the practices engaged in by those in the pay of the mental health services). But to me it would appear that all of these are present to an extraordinary degree in the mental health services. By their own admission the factors on the second line seem to very commonly apply to mental health services nurses who frequently that they don't agree but have to do what the psychiatrist says and that the psychiatrist determines everything about how things really are as regards the patient. So I just wondered whether this to some degree drives the outcomes of rapidly increasing application of "mental illnesses" and drugs and the corresponding multiple medical illnesses and frequency of deaths that occur on an increasingly larger scale and on aggregate on an escalating individual basis as well. What do you think?

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How Can I Banish My Emotions?
This is a little disjointed since it's just based on emotional outpourings. This problem goes way back and I know the various causes of the problem and the various things that keep fueling it, and it won't go away no matter what. When I was really young I got picked on heavily in day care. I STILL desire to take on that role. When I was bullied as a kid I always thought "why can't I be the bully? Why can't I have the satisfaction? I want to be strong!" But now in adulthood I'm still the quiet, unassertive type who is more likely to get picked on and I HATE it and to make matters worse I'm 23. How can I change now? How can I get what I want? I don't necessarily desire to be a bully anymore, but I'd like to at least know how to be a dick to people. I often feel like being a dick to people who annoy me but don't know how to do it. People say they like that I'm not that confrontational, but the thing is deep down I CRAVE confrontation I just don't know how to get it. I don't care whether people like it or NOT I WANT confrontation and yet because people like it and don't know what I really want they go on assuming I enjoy being as I am and don't offer me any help. Or when they do the way they offer the help is in a format that makes me doubt myself and get all emotional and then I'm sucked into the emotions and don't take in any of what they are trying to teach me. When I did bad in school and then my dad yelled at me all I could concentrate on was him yelling at me, when I went to even try to do my homework it became harder and harder since each time I would think of him yelling at me when I approached my homework. I also thought maybe in time dad would understand that his form of motivation wasn't working and logically choose another line of motivation, but it never happened. I've noticed in life that when negative motivation doesn't work people rarely ever turn to positive motivation even if they started with negative motivation. Yet when people couple advice with negative motivation my entire mind just focuses on the emotion, loses the lesson, and it becomes emotionally painful for my mind to revisit the subject, even if before I had heard the negativity I was planning on doing something about it it will become hard. Then I fall behind in things and get more negative feelings, more criticism, and then the cycle continues. I hadn't realized it before. I hate how all these subconscious emotions are effecting my life. My logical side is flawless. I know it is logical and will ultimately make me happy if I be confident, get through what ever I need to get through, and stop dwelling on things but until I remember things from my childhood it seems like the emotions that contradict my logic won't go away. I am so ANGRY at my emotions. I want them all to just bow before logic, accept "logic" as their king and behave themselves or even just go away. Who needs emotions? If I didn't have emotions then I couldn't have any negative emotions, and I would be happy, if you ask me happy is not an emotion, it's a state of fulfillment and for me to be fulfilled it would help if I could get my emotions to go away. Sometimes I wish I could take my emotions out, turn them into people, and punish them. Sometimes my stupid emotions get so intense they take control even though my logical side is thinking "why the hell?" I always maintain enough control to avoid doing anything besides yelling and making a fool of myself, but c'mon why do my emotions hate me so much? Why do they not leave me in peace? Why has my logical self learned so many lessons that the emotional self just isn't taking in? Why?! I also am generally not very talkative, and yet generally not just for confrontation or even just for any particular reason though I'd like to express more humor, anyways I digressed, I WANT to talk more. Deep down I feel a strong need to talk. When I'm alone sometimes I find myself expressing my thoughts outloud to myself or sometimes when I'm in public and feel like no one important is going to hear anyways. People think I'm just "quiet" as personality, but it's lack of ability. Most of the time I literally just can't think of anything to say. When I tell people this they just say it's confidence and part of it is confidence but sometimes even when I let myself be confident I can't think of anything. Now it seems like the way people talk to me leaves me hardly any window to say things, they'll even say things I would normally say in that situation and I can tell they are only saying it for me because it's become an expectation that I'm a quiet person BUT I HATE it! I feel like my ego is suffocating. I hate how other people's emotions and what they may think about me(whether I'm smart, their level of respect, etc.) af ...affects me. It shouldn't. There's no reason for it too, and sometimes I escape and find myself in a state of mind where it doesn't but I can't keep it up. Any negative feelings even from myself(not just criticism from others) will make starting something hard. If I feel I fell behind often I will wind up falling even more behind as a result of the negative feelings. People say you have to admit there?s a problem to solve it. But for me I have to make believe that there is no problem, that everything is fine and that I just see room for improvement in order to get myself into a state of mind where I can get things done. I need to separate myself as much as I possibly can from negative feelings to even get started on something. I even had a comprehensive, detailed idea in my head of what I wanted to do when I was older, but when my dad asked when I was a teenager I couldn't give him a straight answer, because my goals were not in verbal format, they were in pictures. Then he yelled at me and I spent the next few months deepening in depression and feeling unconfident about my goals. I often look back at the past at what I haven't done that I could have had I had the confidence and motivation and beat myself up for it. Someone once tried to help me move on by reminding me that I'm wasting my college years this way. That just made me feel more depressed. I know what I need to do, what experiences I ultimately need to be happy. BUT these stupid emotions don't cooperate. As for what I would be. Sappy, philosophical BS. I don't care whether my existence would have meaning or not. Meaning isn't real, you can't hold it, look at it, hear it. It's made up.

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Football fans can you name me a film that gives you positive motivation?
Example Will Smith's Pursuit of Happyness Yes HappYness that is how the film spells it but reason for that =) What is a motivational film for you? FOOK OF COURSE ROCKY LOL SLIPPED ME OMDZ I AM ASHAMED! LOL

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