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Today's Story on CHILDREN: Sometimes we expect too much from our children. Expectations can confuse us. Try and pick up on the clues and cues that our children give us. BUGS LIKE FIREWORKS On the fourth of July, my wife and I went a couple of blocks from our house to a huge hill where we could enjoy the view and the fireworks, not only from the town we live in but from nearby towns as well. It was a hot night but there was a wonderful breeze, and you could see a long way in all directions. It wasn't as visible as if we were right there where they were shooting them off, but we could still get a good view of the festivities. I wanted to see Caleb's (my 3 year-old boy) reaction to the fireworks. He sat with us all of two minutes before he started tumbling down the hill and giggling. 'Caleb, come here, ' I shouted over. He would reluctantly come back by us and sit for a spell. 'See the pretty colours over there?' 'Oooohhhhhh!, ' he replied, all the while looking in different directions from where the fireworks were actually going off. 'Heeeee heeeeee!' He giggled as he tumbled down the steep hill again. 'Caleb, come here and watch with Daddy, ' I said. 'Okay Daddy, ' he replied. Back up the hill he would come. I tried getting him to concentrate on the fireworks again. He watched for another twenty seconds before he started walking away from us. Suddenly he let out a squeal of delight. Finally he was enjoying the fireworks I thought. He yelled out, 'Look at the lightning bugs!' I sighed and looked down the hill as indeed there were literally hundreds of fireflies that were stealing Daddy's thunder. I tried in vain one last time to get him to watch with me. 'Caleb, tell me what colours you see?' I asked. 'That's a green one Daddy! And a red one!' he spoke back in a jolly mood. This lasted another ten minutes or so before he started tickling Connor (our 11 month old) in his stroller. Then he was off tumbling down the hill again saying, 'Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.' I started to call out to him again when Kristi, my beloved bride, leaned over to me and whispered, 'Michael, just let him be a kid. There will be other years.' I had been getting so irritated that he wouldn't sit by us and take in the fireworks. I guess I had a preconceived notion that he would sit on my lap and just squeal with delight every time one exploded. Then he was going to ask me if they were magic, so that his proud Daddy could stick his concave chest out, and explain away. Luckily my understanding wife was there and was able to gently nudge me back to reality. Once again my impatience was getting in the way, I was expectant when I shouldn't have been. I should have picked up upon the clues and tumbled down the hill with him. Fireworks have been around for hundreds of years but my boy was only going to be three years old a few more months. I guess I should follow my sons lead. He has a fourth of July every day!" (Michael T. Powers) QUOTE: "Children might or might not be a blessing, but to create them and then fail them is surely damnation. (Lois McMaster Bujold, "Barrayar", 1991).
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Facebook question...?
Apparently people with more than 200 friends are less likely to have 'actual' friends in the real world: -
http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2008/10/08/facebook-friends-poor-social-adjustment/
Does anyone have other studies or facts like this? I think this is hilarious.
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I think i have Add/Adhd , what should i do?
I think I have add , or maybe even adhd. I?m 15 years old.
I find it hard sitting still , and when I do I?m moving my hands around. I?m easily distracted and I find it hard to concentrate on things if I don?t find them interesting. I also get easily upset and can go from being really happy to sad. I also find it very hard to write down what I am thinking into words.
I tuck this test (http://psychcentral.com/addquiz.htm) and I scored 69 which is apparently a score close to have adhd. I know this score is not definite but I think I do have Adhd.
Does the way I act mean I have Adhd?.
I don?t know what to do ,and I don?t really feel comfortable talking to my parents about this.
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Are internet mental health screening tests any good?
I am diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia, but I have often tried out internet screening tests on schizophrenia and on a range of other mental disorders, and no disorders apply according to the online tests.
For example, I've just tried the following one for schizophrenia and scored 0:
http://psychcentral.com/quizzes/schizophrenia.htm
So do they work at all in giving any indication whatsoever of mental disorders or illnesses?
Should I believe the consistent results of the various internet tests or the various psychiatrists who all agree that I have schizophrenia (assuming that "schizophrenia" really actually means anything at all)?
Just-me, I do not feel that I have a psychiatric problem. I don't generally take answers from others as conclusive. I like to evaluate things for myself. It's always been this way. Further, it would seem to me that people involved in the mental health system would have a vested interest in the occurrence of mental illness and therefore couldn't offer an unbiased impartial opinion. So I check all the conclusions they arrive at (if they are revealed at all) and find that they are significantly different from my own perceptions. I would be more inclined to believe that more objective tests could at least identify a group of people who are clustered around certain themes in some way. It wouldn't satisfy any objective test of illness, but might at least provide some potentially useful information if a useful application for this information could be determined and tested. People could identify appropriate actions and means of contributing effectively in a way that would be consistent with t
Chirstina,
My teachers at school were professionals who knew more about me because they had talked to me face to face. Although, I scored well in tests, they said there was something wrong with me and I wouldn't be able to pass the exams and would never get anywhere in life. When my father said he would pay for the exams and make a huge fuss in recovering the cost from the school, they let me do 4. I got school prizes in 2 for the best exam results in the year, and later (though not really trying for this objective) earned over £60,000 a year. l do not trust professionals, because their judgement is clouded by their own limited preconceptions and views of reality and the high visibility of my not holding the same ones. The teachers believed that beating children with sticks was good for them. We had a slight difference of opinion.
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what did you get, adhd test?
http://psychcentral.com/addquiz.htm
hope the link works it just an adhd test and i'm wondering what you get
i got 91, adult adhd
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Define "heavy marijuana use".?
I've seen this phrase in many articles before, like this one http://psychcentral.com/news/2008/01/28/withdrawal-from-marijuana-is-difficult/1842.html but I don't know what these researchers mean by "heavy". How many joints or grams of marijuana per day do you have to do to be classed as a "heavy" user? Also, is a "heavy user" the same as a "chronic/regular user" or are they just conditions that can sometimes occur together, i.e. if you are a heavy user then you must be chronic/regular user too... however, maybe if you are a chronic/regular user but you only have one small joint a day in the evening, for example, then you cannot be classed as a "heavy user"?
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