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Quiet Your Mind and Just Play (in 20 Ways)
by Angela Marchesani
24 May 2012 at 11:02pm
Editor?s Note: This is a contribution by Angela Marchesani ?If it?s not fun, you?re not doing it right.? ~Bob Basso I spend a lot of time contemplating and philosophizing about life. According ...
How Can We Identify What We Want and Tiny Buddha Book Giveaway
by Lori Deschene
24 May 2012 at 11:01pm
by Lori Deschene IMPORTANT NOTE: This post contains two poll questions and a giveaway for an autographed copy of the Tiny Buddha book. If you?re reading this in your inbox, you ...
The Key to Beauty and Acceptance Is You
by Jaclyn Witt
23 May 2012 at 8:48pm
Editor?s Note: This is a contribution by Jaclyn Witt ?To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don?t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.? ~Thich Nhat ...
When We Think Other People Are Better Than Us
by Justb
23 May 2012 at 8:48pm
Editor?s Note: This is a contribution by Justb ?No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.? ~Eleanor Roosevelt. I have a very bad habit. It pokes me when I stop to ...
Tiny Wisdom: The Heart in Our Homes
by Lori Deschene
22 May 2012 at 10:17pm
by Lori Deschene Before I found this Flickr image, I had never read this Irish blessing before. What a beautiful idea! I remember in college, I spent a semester abroad in the ...
What We Really Need to Be Happy
by Sasha Peakall
22 May 2012 at 10:16pm
Editor?s Note: This is a contribution by Sasha Peakall ?The real measure of your wealth is how much you?d be worth if you lost all your money.? ~Unknown Standing, getting crushed on ...
Be a Master of Where You Are Now
by Alanna Levenson
21 May 2012 at 11:12pm
Editor?s Note: This is a contribution by Alanna Levenson ?Have respect for yourself, and patience and compassion.  With these, you can handle anything.? ~Jack Kornfield I hadn?t taken a yoga class in ...
Why Do We Ignore Our Instincts and Tiny Buddha Book Giveaway
by Lori Deschene
21 May 2012 at 11:11pm
by Lori Deschene This is the 9th post in a 10-part series. (It’s the last week!) If you?ve been following this series since I launched it, much of this post will ...
How to Feel More Loved: 9 Tips for Deep Connection
by Lori Deschene
20 May 2012 at 10:01pm
by Lori Deschene ?It is astonishing how little one feels alone when one loves.? ~John Bulwer If there?s one thing we all want, it?s to feel loved. We want to feel deeply connected ...
How to Love Without Losing Yourself
by Jennifer Gargotto
17 May 2012 at 10:04pm
Editor?s Note: This is a contribution by Jennifer Gargotto “We love because it is the only true adventure.” ~Nikki Giovanni  Last night I sat with an old friend who has recently broken ...

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Today's Story on SELF DEVELOPMENT: Our mind works in a most peculiar way, and I don't think I need to remind you of that. We can smile at that very contemplation. But why do we allow it to do this? In WISDOM and PRACTICAL PHILOSOPHY we cannot prevent our mind operating in these peculiar ways, but we can limit it by acknowledging its grip and preventing the turmoil that follows. You can be assured that our pattern of thought is determined by our state of mind. If we are ever in the mood of revenge, then you can be sure some bizarre thoughts and actions will follow. So bizarre in fact that another time you'll be embarrassed to tell the tale. Do you ever find yourself justifying your actions? Consider why you justify? You do it in the hope that your actions will be understood. Why? You hope within your explanation that your actions that now appear wrong can have some sort of good intention. The best explanation of your actions however, is that they were made in a high emotional state. The justification appears almost as if you are in a court of law. If you find you have to explain your decisions, the very implication is that they were not done from a sound and logical frame of mind. What is this telling us? That we ARE most definitely controlled by our emotional state of mind. Our good intentions, our sensible head, our intellectual deliberations all mean nothing during the throws of a high emotion. We need our feet firmly on the ground and we need to interrupt by SEEING what is happening, before we can expect any degree of sense to arise from the so called madness that takes over. Forgive me as I would need to describe this emotional control to an extreme to drive the point home. Today's story is about a man who looses sight of reality and finds he is making decisions during a period of depression. While ever he stays in this deep and dark emotional state he'll not SEE. WISDOM is not always about helping yourself. If you practice the skill on other people as did the child in this story, you'll find an understanding that will help direct your own life. DADDY DEAREST I laid there in bed, thinking. It had been three years since my dad was lively and happy. A terrible bout with depression was taking a toll on him, and thus our family, over that time span. Lucky for me, I went to college out of town. I came home on breaks, as well as weekends when I could, but I had my own life now. And every time I went home, I would build up walls and keep myself at a distance from all the problems in the family, because I didn't think I could take it. This particular summer, I had arranged for a job near school, so I could escape the emotions of returning to an unhappy home. As I laid there in my childhood bed, the night before returning to my apartment for the summer, I broke down in tears. How could I be so selfish? How could I leave my mom and dad all alone to deal with this? How could I pretend that I didn't need to bear some of the responsibility of helping out? The years of denial came out in my tears that night, and I knew I couldn't continue on pretending. I was going to help as much as I could, even if that was only a small baby-step. That next day, I told my dad over breakfast, firmly, that we were going to clean his room, and I was going to help him. My mom had been begging him for a year to clean his room, because it was in such disarray. The doctors said taking proactive steps like that would help him feel better about himself, and maybe chip away at what was wrong with him. But he never wanted to listen. Stubbornly, he never actually took those steps. Much to my surprise, he actually smiled, and said "Ok, " to my suggestion. That day we went through years of old trash and documents. Newspapers from 10 years ago, computer games from elementary school. We worked together the entire day. All he needed was a firm kick in the butt to get him moving, and then he was able to take charge, looking happier than I had seen in months. By the time the day was over, his room was sparkling. Now we could all go back there and watch television together, just like childhood. though that would unfortunately have to wait until my next visit home. More importantly, now my dad had done something to help himself, and was a little happier. And I had helped him. It was time to leave though. I had a great job lined up, and had already given up a good night's rest on the first day of work by helping my dad all afternoon. I really hugged my dad as I said goodbye, for the first time in years. And as I hugged my mom goodbye, she whispered "Thank you so much" in my ear. This is still a story in progress, so I can't report that everything is all better now. But my fingers are crossed because now there is a lot more hope, and hope is very powerful. (Matt Blass, 2002, all rights reserved) QUOTE: "No lions are ever caught in mousetraps. To catch lions you must think in terms of lions, not in terms of mice. Your mind is always creating traps of one kind or another, and what you catch depends on the thinking you do. It is your thinking that attracts to you what you receive.' (Thomas Dreier, Author)

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When in 2nd stage of labour what muscles are you ........?
...meant to use ? I have had a 2 children before 1 c- section and 1 normal birth they are 4 & 5 now and we are about to have baby no 3. It happened all so fast last time and i just put up with gas and air and tore.(plus it was a long time ago!!) I want this time to be the same but with more control and have looked over pregnancy comments on the net; one stating that when pushing this woman pushed as though she needed to poo; surly you are meant to push using your stomach muscles aren't you its just I have been praticing relaxation techniques and would like to know when I need to push what muscles am I meant to be using?

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cbt therapy 6 week course - begging to think i have made a mistake help ?
6 week ago i was discharged from 'crisis unit' (intensive home based treatment) as my depression and anxiety had improoved thanks to 'crisis' gettin me on the right medication and teaching me relaxation techniques , then i was refered to 'cbt' where i will go 1 hour for 6 weeks every tuesday , but you see 6 week has already passed sins crisis fixed me up and i have never ben better , my life is full again and im literally 'sound as a pound' so the thing is i believe im waisting their time as much as they are waisting mine with this 6 week course , i just want to put this bad chapter of my life behind me and move on but i can forget about the past whilst ever im being reminded 1 a week for 6 week should i ask to be taken off ????? i mean i cant see how they can tell me anything crisis didn't or anything i dont already know ......... or if tey can to be honest im not sure i would want to know

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why have i suddenly relapsed back into my depression and anxiety - HOW!!!!! WHY!!!?
ok i have been on my new medication about 6-7 week (i was refered to crisis unit and they sorted me out and got my life turned around) , before that i was bad , having panic attacks , days seeming like weeks , throwing up , shaking , not wanting to see anyone so anyway , i know all these relaxation techniques that crisis tought me , but mainley i was convinced my medication was working but yesterday and today i feel nervous , shakey and having my old thoughts ... i have started sleeping in on mornings because im scared to get up again , all be it im not back like i was at first but why have i relapses , i sould be fink , the tablets and crisis fixed me up help??????? btw im alone in the house so im in a bit of a panic right now soory i ment 'why have i relapsed i should be fine ' - its hard to type when your in a panic

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Moving house and feeling really stressed out, am I harming my baby? :o(?
We are in the process of moving house and all the ringing round, chasing solicitors and estate agents to get moving dates and tie everything in with our purchase is really stressing me out. I'm trying my best to stay calm but feel very churned up about it all. Am I harming my baby? I'm really worried about it. Any relaxation techniques or things I can do to chill out or calm myself down so baby is calm too. I feel guilty for stressing out when I'm carrying my baby :o(

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Why do the relaxation techniques make me feel worse?
I have been given a CD by a psychotherapist to use to try and reduce my anxiety and make me relax. He says to practise them everyday. So far they have increased my anxiety and made me feel awful. The first track on there gets you to picture a safe place - I have a problem with this as I don't feel safe anywhere at the moment. I tried it again and I ended up nearly in tears with frustration and it brought back loads of grief for my partner. The second track is muscle relaxation - it starts off with getting you to concentrate on your breathing. Whenever I do this my breathing gets worse and I start to feel anxious and panicky. How do I overcome this? Will keep trying make it work? Am I doing something wrong? I am in such a bad place mentally right now and I just don't know what to do to make things feel better. My anxiety is on overload and I just feel so distressed. Do you have problems with relaxation techniques? What works for you? I suffer from PTSD - complex trauma; Chronic grief; Chronic Depression; anhedonia and anxiety. Sorry for being so silly and thanks for any helpful suggestions you can give. :-)))

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