Self Esteem
Today's Story on ADAPTING TO CHANGE: QUOTE: 'Empathize with one who is angry and watch the anger melt away into acceptance.' (Eva Gregory) Starting with a quote on this occasion has helped set the mood. A major part of wisdom is control, not dominance but allowance. The greater control comes from letting go. Rather than seeing control as 'hands on' we ought to view it from a different perspective as 'hands off'. As in the quote above empathy is not control it is an understanding. To understand allows a greater force to work. If we could adapt that to our own life rather than the quote's suggestion as seeing others, we could temper many a storm. As with adapting to change, could we not allow the change to happen and adapt rather than fight its effect? The greater energy flow would arise by letting go, rather than mustering up the strength to fight. Our emotion state of mind is at its strongest during a period of calm and settled existence. Stir that up and our decisions become more erratic and dysfunctional. So the power arises from the calm rather than the futile lashing out from the anger. Today's story illustrates how we can disarm the anger; the anger of doing wrong. The route is through letting go rather than dominance. DISARMING THE ENEMY According to an Associated Press account, in September 1994 Cindy Hartman of Conway, Arkansas, walked into her house to answer the phone and was confronted by a burglar. He ripped the phone cord out of the wall and ordered her into a closet. Hartman dropped to her knees and asked the burglar if she could pray for him. "I want you to know that God loves you and I forgive you, '' she said. The burglar apologized for what he had done. Then he yelled out the door to a woman in a pickup truck: "We've got to unload all of this. This is a Christian home and a Christian family. We can't do this to them." As Hartman remained on her knees, the burglar returned furniture he had taken from her home. Then he took the bullets out of his gun, handed the gun to Hartman, and walked out the door. Praying for our enemies is incredibly disarming. (Unknown Author) QUOTE: 'Whenever evil befalls us, we ought to ask ourselves, after the first suffering, how can we turn it into good. So shall we take occasion, from one bitter root, to raise perhaps many flowers.' (Leigh Hunt)
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People who belittle and degrade others?
Do people who belittle and degrade others in order to look superior do so because they are afraid that if they were to make a comparison based on their own merits they would fall short, hence the need to belittle in order to appear big. What are the psychological reasons people do this, insecurity, low self esteem etc?
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Is it true that you should never compliment a woman who's below you in the looks department?
Every time I compliment them they always be rude back or block on my social networking sites, I try to be nice to these mingers but they don't appreciate it. Instead I now call women who are fat or ugly names because a few women who I've tried to boost their self esteem and be nice to them have thrown in back in my face, I also don't do it in a condescending way either because unlike women men aren't shallow and we don't call women names because of their looks. I never will reject a woman because of her looks because I'm not a shallow bastard like all women assume in the fictional mind which they live in, I would only reject a woman if I didn't like her personality. My gosh women are stupid!
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Tight Foreskin Problems:/?
Hello, I'm 13 years old and my foreskin does not go down the head of my penis. I really want to get this as fixed as soon as possible, but I am not open with my parents about stuff like this. It is quite embarrassing, especially as I have pearly penile pebulents (or something like that) I have lost confidence and self esteem over it. I want to keep my foreskin in tact and figured the solution I prefer the most is the cream some places sell to help masterbating easier. I live in the UK and wondered if I could buy this cream from a shop like asda, and if so what is it called? Thanks
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Does this mean i'm ugly?
I'm not really sure where to start and no matter what i write i'm still going to sound like a bad person but trust me i'm not. Very long story short, me and this guy from school got back in touch via Facebook. We met up and after meeting up a few times we ended up sleeping together. That was the biggest mistake of my life because not only was it my first time but afterwards he treated me differently and only talked about sex when we spoke. I felt like crap but yet i really liked him. This "thing" (whatever it was) carried on for about 6 months or so.
Then he got back with some ex girlfriend who he knew from uni and who lived near him (he lives miles away from me). Well, at first he said he just wanted to be friends because he was no longer single but then when we met up he tried to kiss me and touched me inappropriately. At the time i was so blinded by my feelings that i thought that meant he liked me (stupid) so i let him do it. The next time we ended up sleeping together behind his girlfriend's back and carried on up until about 2 months ago. He text me one night asking to meet up for a drink (i didn't reply) the next day i find out that he's moving in with her. I decided i couldn't do it anymore so i text him telling him to leave me alone. He asked if we could meet up and be friend but i said no. The next day he removed me from Facebook and haven't spoken since the middle of March. The first few weeks i was very upset but now that it's been over a month i feel slightly better but it's still hard sometimes. I hardly go on Facebook now because i don't want to see anything that will upset me etc I'm more disappointed with myself more than anything because i was told what he was like and i never thought i'd be so stupid. I still feel angry that he's gotten away with it. I'm not "easy" or a "sl*t" before i get called that. I've slept with ONE guy and i haven't been with anybody else since.
Sometimes I feel like it happened because I wasn't good enough. I mean, I've seen pictures of her and she's not a supermodel or anything, she's just a normal looking girl like me but she's blonde and is well off. Before all this happened i used to have quite good self esteem but now i feel ugly and worthless. Even if people tell me i'm attractive it doesn't make a difference. Apparently i'm not the first girl he's used but i still feel like it's because i'm not good enough.
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Boob job on the NHS???
I am 18, an have seriously large boobs. I'm not very large, about a size 12, but my bra size is 34H! I've always had big boobs, and it doesn't bother me that much sometimes because I'm used to it, but sometimes it really gets me down. I'm so limitted to what I can wear and I feel like that's all anyone knows me for (my friends joke about it which is fine, but I'm fed up of being the girl with the big boobs). So many people tell me they are jealous of them and that I should embrace them and a lot of the time I do. At one point I was considering seeing about having a boob job, because it has made me very down, so if I went to the doctor and told him it was making me have low self esteem and feel down would I get it on the NHS? Chances are I won't but I was curious. Even though the idea sounds good sometimes I think I'd regret it afterwards, so it's likely that unless for any medical reason (bad back etc) I won't do it. Also, what are your opinions of this?
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